Writing is the hardest part of the creative process
First rule in the creative process is to talk about what you know. Your joy will be felt through the microphone.
The show was inspired by the book that I haven’t written yet, so going in, I knew I’d most likely need to dredge up things I haven’t fully recovered from. But those are the battle wounds that are expected, so i was ready for war. I learned to take my time and to be present in writing. I take my time in writing. Usually, two or three days. Then the rest of the stuff – promotion, the production stuff, and recording the episode is all gravy. That’s the fun stuff. It’s the writing part that is the hardest part of it, but at the same time, it’s also the most cleansing part of the whole production – which in turn, the most rewarding.
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This week Shane shares his love for wrestling and how it being such a constant in his life, helped him over the years to stay sane. Speaking of wrestling, Shane gives his two-cents on the Ranallo/Graves situation that went down last week. Cory Chadwick of the Personal Greatness Project joins us. We talk about mental health in today’s society and in sports. It’s a hard hitting, action packed, body checking type of episode.
Perineum sunning gives you energy in 30 seconds, Ra claims
Sunbathing your crack isn’t a fake news crack. `Perineum sunning’ is an actual real thing and all the wellness influencers are doing it. Apparently, sunlight on your buthole gives you energy. and will “receive more energy from this electric node than you would in an entire day being outside with your clothes on.” This from influencer, Ra of Earth.
Sunscreen is not required
Perineum sunning first got internet fame after a woman that goes by Metaphysical Meagan shared a picture of her letting it all hang out. The photo has 1,049 likes. In the lengthy caption Meghan reveals her “experience with perineum sunning has been profound.”
“I would highly recommend this to anyone who is seeking optimal health & wellness and to those looking to connect with their sexual energy in a balanced way. The main advice I have that this practice is meant to be done in the time of 30 seconds to 5 minutes MAX in the sun.”
Big Little Liars actress doesn’t find a crack in perineum sunning
Big Little Liars actress Shailene Woodley who is widely known for her holistic lifestyle has admitted she practices perineum sunning. “I was reading an article written by an herbalist I studied about yeast infections and other genital issues. She said there’s nothing better than vitamin D. If you’re feeling depleted, go in the sun for an hour and see how much energy you get. Or, if you live in a place that has heavy winters, when the sun finally comes out, spread your legs and get some sunshine.”
Is perineum sunning an asinine idea?
Well, maybe. Medical professionals aren’t too sure about the new fad.
“There is no evidence that sunbathing in this way has any effect on physical well-being,” Dr. Diana Gall of UK-based online clinic, Doctor 4 U..
Gall says while vitemin D is important, we “don’t need to damage your skin in the process from sun exposure,” She recommends safer ways to practice mindfulness. “There are no extra benefits of doing this naked in the sun.”
On this weeks show, Shane delves right in and talks about the good and bad parts of social media. Shane shares his experience with it and reveals disturbing numbers in terms of which social platforms cause the most anxiety.
After an incredible performance Saturday night, NXT ringside commentator Mauro Ranallo was absent at Sunday’s Survivor Series. Michael Cole claimed Ranallo blew “his voice out” while calling the pay-per-view. It has been reported that Ranallo’s absence is due to tweets from his co-worker, Corey Graves.
Just for the record guys, I know you wouldn’t know it, but there’s actually a WWE Hall of Famer AND a former Ring of Honor Champion on commentary.
Fans thought it was suspicious that the popular personality deleted his Twitter account shortly after the WWE SmackDown colour-guy seemingly threw shade at the lead commentator.
Ranallo has been public about his mental health
Fans have been very supporting of Ranallo, who notably struggles with bipolar disorder. With mental health becoming a serious topic of discussion in the workplace, as it should be, and social media becoming increasingly more acerbic, many fans have voiced their displeasure with Graves.
In 2018, Ranallo released a documentary on his struggle with Bipolar Affective Disorder. It follows his journey as he “combats the stigma behind mental health issues and sheds light on what it’s like being at the top of the industry despite seemingly insurmountable odds.”
Graves was an idiot belittling Ranallo’s on-air performance Saturday night. While his persona reminds me of old school heels, Graves’ apparent real life Twitter presence makes him seem like a childish human, and Saturday was a good example of this. I’m not saying that we should treat those suffering from mental health issues any different than others, I’m saying don’t be a dooche on social media. Wrestling is huge on respect for the those that led the way. Ranallo has been calling fights since 1999, when Graves was 15. Graves disrespected Ranallo and this has no place in sports- entertainment.
Many expect the topic will be brought up this week on Graves’ WWE podcast, After the Bell, this week. Speaking of podcasts, social media and mental health is the topic for this weeks episode of Shower for the Soul. It’ll be up Wednesday.
This week Shane tackles body confidence. Shane shares what he has been battling since birth and his views on being short. To kick off the show, Shane lets us know his thoughts on the Don Cherry debacle.
Christmas music may contribute to a decline in mental health
Not so jolly news coming out of Britain this week. A British psychologist, Linda Blair says Christmas music causes stress triggers. Listening to music on a loop in the car reminds listeners of their daily stresses and what they need to get done before December 25th.
Now with retail and radio both starting their all-Christmas tune parade days after Halloween, the stress period is getting longer. “You’re simply spending all of your energy trying not to hear what you’re hearing,” she says. Blair says workers in retail stores are most at-risk for being mentally drained by Christmas music. Hearing the same songs over and over makes it hard for employees to focus on tasks at hand.
In an impromptu poll, the Tampa Bay Times asked when is the most appropriate time to start the holiday carols. More than 54% of respondents said the music is only fitting after Thanksgiving. More surprising is that 11% of respondents said any time after Halloween is just fine. They’re tied with the people who love Christmas music any time of the year.
The solution is stop playing Christmas music so early
Blair says the solution is to stop playing Christmas music so early. More prolonged exposure to the cheery tunes causes a mental drain for employees and irritates shoppers. Unfortunately, Christmas music is now arriving before Halloween: Best Buy, for example, started playing holiday music on October 22 this year. Other stores such as Sears, Ulta, and Michaels followed suit just a few days later.
Mariah Caery’s Christmas tune voted most annoying by Brits
The British public have spoken. They have confirmed that all they want for Christmas is not to hear the song All I Want for Christmas is You.
In a recent poll, the Mariah Carey festive smash – which is the 12th best selling single of all time – was voted the most annoying Christmas song. Ever.
Others that made the list include Band Aid’s Do They Know It’s Christmas and Fairytale of New York by The Pogues .
Like how it’s a tough to come by a good friend, it’s tough to spot a toxic one. They start off really nice and they often convince you that they are not the problem. This is where they danger lays. They have a way of making their friend feel inferior, invisible, anxious, and that they are a bad person, thus, eroding a person’s sense of self and compromising their mental health.
However, the non-toxic individual should not change their good nature or the tendency to be self-reflective and accountable. These are admirable qualities. By implementing six techniques, they can neutralize the toxicity without having to change who they are or sever the friendship. I’s necessary to decipher whether a friend is in the toxic zone.
Your friendship is in the toxic zone if:
Make comments that are confusing and that sting. These comments swim in a person’s head, causing self-doubt and anxiety.
He or she ignores their friend’s feelings and promotes their own.
If the non-toxic friend asserts themselves in the friendship, the toxic friend frames them as dramatic or over sensitive.
Occasionally the toxic friend is nice in order to deter their friend from suspecting they are toxic. The toxic friend is especially nice when other people are watching.
Toxic characters project like crazy. Chances are they have already accused their friend or others of being toxic.
Frequently they play the victim, asserting they have a more difficult plight than anyone else.
They triangulate – meaning if there is a mutual friend they begin to align that friend with themselves and exclude the non-toxic friend.
Rarely do they comment on their friend’s successes or achievements, but they readily highlight their own.
Often they ignore or exclude their friend when they are with mutual friends.
They indirectly sabotage their friend by drawing them into drama that deters them from pursuing their goals.
How to neutralize a toxic friendship
Get space, emotionally. Refrain from telling the toxic friend anything personal. Avoid talking about feelings, issues, hopes, and dreams. The toxic person cannot sabotage without this information. Also, do not go to the toxic person in need of help with something. Finally, steer clear of their drama with other people. Simply empathize with their feelings and politely excuse yourself from the conversation.
Be diplomatic. Do not make it evident that emotional space is the goal. Say things like, “I’d love to talk, but I’m knee deep in a work project. I’ll call you next week.” It’s okay to be slightly disingenuous in order to protect yourself and salvage the friendship.
Pursue activities and friendships independent of the toxic friend. Hitch your wagon to a friend with healthier interpersonal capacities. Make friends with an empath. Find a passion or hobby independent of the toxic friend.
It’s alright to have fun with the toxic friend. Have some laughs and talk about impersonal things like the Cubs, HGTV, or the weather. Go out and dance or see a movie.
Do mind and body work. A toxic individual can impact your sense-of-self. One way to recover is to do mind and body work, such as yoga, tai chi, and martial arts.
Laughter is good medicine. A toxic friend can zap your ability to laugh. Find it again. Be silly. Go to a comedy club. Watch funny movies.
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Handling a toxic friendship is an essential skill in today’s world. Identifying one is the first step. Grabbing enough emotional space to be safe from a toxic person’s manipulations is key. Have fun, but don’t get too chummy.
A Tedtalk on the 8 signs of a toxic friendship
E004S001 – The one about friendships
This week Shane takes a look at friendships. The bad, toxic ones and the ones that we all should hold close to our hearts. Shane discuss how to spot a toxic person in our lives and how to cut the friendship cord.
British actress Emma Watson is not single. In an interview with British Vogue published Tuesday (see full interview below), the actress said she had anxiety as her 30th birthday sneaked up to her minus a stable career, baby or partner.
“I never believed the whole ‘I’m happy single’ spiel,” the 29-year-old actress said. “I was like, ‘This is totally [a] spiel.’ It took me a long time, but I’m very happy [being single].
She calls it being self-partnered, “I was like, ‘Why does everyone make such a big fuss about turning 30? This is not a big deal.’” Watson laughed. “If you have not built a home, if you do not have a husband, if you do not have a baby and you are turning 30 and you’re not in some incredibly secure, stable place in your career … There’s just this incredible amount of anxiety,” Watson said.
Twitter responded to Emma Watson and her relationship status
Many went to Twitter to express their approval and wonderment on Watson’s new relationship status.
When I was in my 20’s, an amazing woman told me life began for her at 30. She wasn’t wrong! 💃🏻 Thanks to Emma Watson for highlighting this issue. It’s so important for young women to know their self worth has absolutely nothing to do with their youth. ♥️ pic.twitter.com/nOzfMfWLIp
I wish somebody had told me that it’s ok to just carry on being alone and being yourself before I delved into such an excruciatingly painful time of my life just to be with somebody that I didn’t know would turn out to be much different than what was portrayed in the beginning.
Shane shares the story of his two tattoos and how they have become an important part of his mental health recovery. He also tackles how tattoos have become a popular way to remind yourself that you’ve survived the battle. Tattoos have become a very important part of the healing process. Shane tells us why.
As promised, here are my tattoos
I said I’ll post my tattoos for you. Here they are. The headphone with microphone is my first born. I got it on February 1st 2014. The second, I received in 2018. As I shared with you on the show, they both have their own rightful spot in my heart and soul.
…And here’s the track that inspired my tree tatt.
Meet Keisha and the tattoo that helped in her recovery